The Stigma Stays

red-ribbon-anti-AIDSPersonally, prejudice wouldn’t arise if people refrained from doing wrong. You can’t stop society from looking down on people who have committed grave mistakes; it comes with the territory. It’s a bitter fact that most people are judgmental, and they have good reason to be.

Admit it, we frown on people who do wrong. And we become more disappointed in them if we know them personally and were convinced that they couldn’t have possibly commit grave mistakes.


A DOH Report

The Department of Health reports that 1,305 HIV cases were reported this year. Accordingly, most of these cases were caused by male homosexual relations and sharing of needles between injecting prohibited drug users.

Read the latest report of the Department of Health (Phl) here or here.

Guilty and Shamed

When one is suspected of being a carrier of an infection, the first logical course of action would be to submit oneself for testing. This confirms the presence/absence of a disease and clears up the next steps to take; i.e., warning persons they are close to and availing of treatments.

In the realm of HIV, this can be a downgrading action. Usually, those suspected of having active unprotected sexual relations outside of marriage and indulging in injectable prohibited drugs are the ones encouraged to submit themselves for HIV screening. Of course, people who undergo screening often feel guilt for the wrong that they have done and are ashamed towards other people because of their acts. It adds insult to injury if the tests reveal a positive case of HIV infection.

Worlds fall, people shake their heads and rub it in, and the HIV-infected person feels like the biggest loser in the world. He wishes he hadn’t put himself up for testing and just when through the remainder of his life. Without the prejudice.

Learning from Mistakes

It’s unfortunate that most people need to commit mistakes in order to learn what is right, instead of learning from the mistakes of others. With that, people who are carriers of HIV should learn to accept their circumstance and savor its bitterness. There is no escaping the harshness of being an HIV carrier because of unprotected promiscuity and using prohibited injectable drugs. Both acts are cemented as wrong. Although regarded as wrong and still, a person consents to it, he will have to deal with its consequences. One should be man responsible enough to go through the repercussions of his decisions. It can be tough dealing with discrimination; no matter how many years one spends fighting it off, it (discrimination) will always stay.

Unprevented Transmission

There are HIV transmissions that cannot be prevented no matter how righteous a person lives.

Mother-to-Child Transmission. One form of transmission occurs in a “mother-to-child” manner. An HIV-positive woman can infect her child during pregnancy, at childbirth, or through breastfeeding. These transfer routes permit the passage of the HIV virus from the mother to her child.

Rape Victims. Other unpreventable sources of the HIV virus are rapists. Unwarranted sex, more so if penetration is without protection, is a potent transporter of HIV.

It is true that biases for people with these cases are eminent. They are frowned on despite the fact that they never did anything to acquire the HIV virus. These people need a lot more empathy since the circumstances that gave them the virus were out of their hands.


Undeniably, unprotected premarital sex is getting more and more rampant. With today’s liberated minds, abstinence seems like a big joke. Take it or not, waiting until marriage before having a sexual relationship is the best decision to take to prevent probable complications in health and relationships. It sounds old-school, a deviation from modern thinking. True. But just because everyone around you does it, does not mean you also have to do it. Learn from their mistakes. Don’t give yourself more problems than you already have.


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Recis Dempayos

Budding YouTuber / vlogger, occasional blogger, aspiring multimedia artist.

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